Sunset Star 7 by Brian Sapere

 

Part 3

 

 

Pearl said on The Gentle Souls' Revolution blog:

March 21, 2014

 

In the mid 1970s, on the West Coast: Sharon left to go out of town and told some of us women to expect a call from Alex. We could accept his offer to come to our homes for a sexual call. Which he did. He was like a cold fish. It’s abuse of power, which I don’t think I recognized at the time. Also, at one point, mothers were told to put their kids in a daycare run by one of the mothers, who had no clue about taking care of children. This was short term. It was replaced by a day care arrangement which was rather good, but run by a friend of Sharon’s and thus ultimately a form of control. The money pressure even then was fierce. Dues to pay. Huge pressure to sell tickets to the plays, which was the gateway to new recruits. Lack of sleep was a big part of life. Humiliation and ridicule were instruments of control as well, but we probably did not understand it as such. We did know about and read all the work books, many of which I enjoyed. We often talked about G and O and Collins and Nicoll and Orage. Sharon had poetry written by Collin’s wife – which I think I still have. There was pressure on unwed mothers to give their children up for adoption to fellow students; many marriages were arranged and broken. This was all before the '80s, before the older group migrated to East Coast. It only got worse on the East Coast. Many children of the older students of the '70s and '80s are still not recovered from the trauma of growing up in this atmosphere.

 


 

 Pearl's comments reminded me of the "special class" – dirty trick and trap, double-bind and set-up – arranged by Alex (Oct. 7, 1975) to gain easy access to his prey, usual and potential rape victims – so-called "fresh food and blood," "free whores" and "harem girls".

 

During class Jeannine asked Bob if he would marry her. Since Bob wanted to marry a Jewish gal, and also had one in mind, he was politely ambivalent. But Bob soon agreed to marry Jeannine (whose paternal grandparents were Catholic immigrants from Italy. At first glance, Jeannine reminded me of Natalie Wood in West Side Story).

 

Class began with Director Horn sitting down in the second row, front and center seat of his little Everyman Theatre, where he was glaring, frowning, and staring at all the young women up on the stage.

 

Sharon Gans-Horn was her husband's perfect partner in crime – fully groomed, ready and willing to play her assigned role and deliver his dirty lines – without question or hesitation:

 

"The females who did not get chosen or agree to get married tonight need to line up on stage…"

 

"Good. Now you need to each verbally agree or not to participate in my husband's 'sexual experimentations' on single females and 'get fucked' by a Real Man."

 

The young friend and "new girl in school" beside me on stage whispered in my ear, "I'm really scared – aren't you?"

 

Whenever the "Real Man" wanted to "pay you a visit" and "teach you a lesson," he usually called and repeated the same message: "Are you alone? Good. I'll be right over."

 


 

Briefly speaking. . .  

 

 Bob and I were married April 2, 1972 at Beth Isreal-Judea on Brotherhood Way in S.F. (My grandparents were poor farmers and Protestants whose parents had come from Ireland and England.)

 

 I was two or three months pregnant when Horn arranged a shocking and confusing, degrading and humiliating public announcement:

 

Bob: "I want a divorce."

 

"Why?"  "Because I don't think you really love me."  

 

Horn: "Go your separate ways immediately – and don't talk to each other."

 

Sharon smiled at me and claimed: "You can get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption."

 

 

 Abraham David was born to Linda Jo and Robert Morris Klein, Aug. 30, 1973.

 

 

 

 


 

I came across the following good question and definitions on Safehorizon:

 

What are Rape and Sexual Assault?

 

Sexual assault is a general term that includes any forced or unwanted sexual activity, including rape, incest, sexual abuse, and molestation. Sexual assault includes any forced or unwanted touching of an intimate part of the body, such as breasts, buttocks, or genitals.

 

Rape, a specific type of sexual assault, involves any forced, manipulated, or coerced penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth, by a penis or other object. Sexual assault/rape is not a crime of passion but a crime of violence, using sex as a weapon to overpower and to degrade the victim. A rapist can be a stranger or someone the victim knows, including a spouse, date, or family member.

 


 

   Rape is perhaps the most misunderstood crime of all. It is also the ultimate violation, short of homicide. Yet too many people tend to blame the victim, saying she was asking for it. As a result, survivors are often reluctant to speak about their ordeals.

 

~ Dr. Leslie Hartley-Gise 

 


 

. . .Most rapes occur along with other crimes — robbery, burglary, assault, kidnap, attempted murder, or even murder. We must realize that rape is always a crime of violence, even if the woman is not beaten. Rape is not seduction and we are never going to understand rape if we view it as sexual behavior— rape is a hostile and cruel act of violence which threatens the life of the victim.

 

~ Andrea Rechtin

Advocate for rape victims

 


 

From an interview with Dr. Lee Sannella by Jack Brooks in The San Francisco Progress, Feb 25, 1979, A Psychiatrist's Appraisal of Alex Horn:

 

   "The violence," said Sannella, "was employed to prove to himself that others shared the same weaknesses that he had. Some of your witnesses said that they never saw any violence toward women. I saw plenty. Horn hates women. His sexual use of them was a punishment. I saw him strike one woman so hard, she hit a concrete floor and bloodied her head."

 

———————-

 

Horn: "I hate her – can't stand the sight of her – just want to kill her!"

 


 

From Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of Psychopaths Among Us by Dr. Robert D. Hare

 

Psychopathic Violence – Cold-blooded and "Casual"

 

   Even more troubling than their heavy involvement in crime is the evidence that both male and female psychopaths are much more likely to be violent and aggressive than are other individuals.  Of course, violence is not uncommon in most offender populations, but psychopaths still manage to stand out.  They commit more than twice as many violent and aggressive acts, both in and out of prison, as do other criminals.
   Troubling yes, but not surprising. While most of us have strong inhibitions about physically injuring others, psychopaths typically do not.  For them, violence and threats are handy tools to be used when they are angered, defied, or frustrated, and they give little thought to the pain and humiliation experienced by the victims. Their violence is callous and instrumental – used to satisfy a simple need, such as sex, or to obtain something he or she wants – and the psychopath's reactions to the event are much more likely to be indifference, a sense of power, pleasure or smug satisfaction than regret at the damage done. Certainly nothing to lose any sleep over.

 

Sexual Violence

 

   Rape provides a good example of the callous, selfish, and instrumental use of violence by psychopaths.

 

   Perhaps half of the repeat or serial rapists are psychopaths. Their acts are the result of a potent mixture, uninhibited expression of sexual drives and fantasies, desire for power and control, and a perception of the victims as objects of pleasure or satisfaction. 

 


 

Horn, in "class" and '73 . . .

 

   "Everything people do – good or evil – they always do because they think of it as good. So never 'just believe' people – or take what they say at face value – no matter who they are. Everything must be verified."

 

In another "class" . . .

 

   “Sure, I'm a 'con' and 'tyrant'. I've conned all of you into coming here tonight and giving me your hard-earned money. I've conned you into doing lots of things you would NEVER do if I wasn't a tyrant, and you weren't afraid of me."

 

   "I represent the WORST this world has to offer! If you can stand up to ME, you can stand up to ANYBODY!!"

 


 

From Without Conscience:

 

Psychopaths often come across as arrogant, shameless braggarts – self-assured, opinionated, domineering, and cocky.  They love to have power and control over others and seem unable to believe that other people have valid opinions different from theirs. They appear charismatic or "electrifying" to some people.

 

Psychopaths have a narcissistic and grossly inflated view of their self-worth and importance, a truly astounding egocentricity and sense of entitlement, and see themselves as the center of the universe, as superior beings who are justified in living according to their own rules.

 

Psychopaths are seldom embarrassed about their legal, financial, or personal problems. Rather, they see them as temporary setbacks, the results of bad luck, unfaithful friends, or an unfair and incompetent system.

 

Psychopaths feel that their abilities will enable them to become anything they want to be.  Given the right circumstances – opportunity, luck, willing victims – their grandiosity can pay off spectacularly.  For example, the psychopathic entrepreneur "thinks big," but it's usually with someone else's money.

 

. . . the psychopath carries out his evaluation of a situation – what he will get out of it and at what cost – without the usual anxieties, doubts, and concerns about being humiliated, causing pain, sabotaging future plans, in short, the infinite possibilities that people of conscience consider when deliberating possible actions.  . . .imagining the world as the psychopath experiences it is close to impossible.

 


 

Stalking and conning his prey in a S.F. Lyon's restaurant, Nov. 1976

 

Horn:  "I hear you're getting a divorce."

 "I'm also seeing a psychiatrist."

H  "Well, how is it?"

"How is what?"

H  "Is he a good fuck?"

L  "Do you think all therapists sleep with their patients!?!"

H  "Well, if they're not, they're thinkin' about it!"

(speechless)

H  "Come on – ALL girls need a good fuck, ya know – you'll die without it!"

 

Hypocrite: liar, pretender, fraud, deceiver, charlatan, bigot, quack, Pharisee, sham, actor, cheat, trickster, malingerer, swindler, traitor, wolf in sheep’s clothing, masquerader, fake, two-face. Hypocritical: deceptive, double-dealing, insincere, dishonest. Hypocrisy: quackery, affectation, bad faith, hollowness, lip service, bigotry, pretense of virtue or piety, empty ceremony, sanctimony…  The feigning of qualities and beliefs that one does not actually possess or hold, esp. a pretense of virtue, piety or moral superiority. (From Webster’s New World Dictionary & Thesaurus, etc.)


 

                                   What IS Vulgarity?

 

Ruskin defined it as a 'deadness of heart and body resulting from
prolonged, and especially from inherited, conditions of degeneracy'.
 
 
  ~ Robert Graves

 


 

fuck (Taboo) vt. To cheat, trick, take advantage of, deceive or treat someone unfairly. Very common. The relationship between sex and fraud is best illustrated by this usage…”

 

From The Dictionary of American Slang and "Rape Language" chapter in Men On Rape: What They Have to Say About Sexual Violence, by Timothy Beneke

 


                                                                                               

 

Wolf in Sheep's clothing

 

 

 

 

"Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves…"

 

      Matthew  7:15     

 

 

 

 

                                                                            

 


 

 

How many times did this psychopathic cult leader and wolf in sheep's clothing repeat the same crimes, absurdities and atrocities, fictions and fabrications?

 

Horn: "You think you're in heaven, but you're really all in hell, and I'm the only man who can tell you how to get out!"

                

"You don't have a real conscience — just an acquired conscience."

 

   "If you leave [me], you'll spiral down into hell."

 

 "If you leave, you'll wind up like a wad of bubble gum in the gutter of life."

 

 "You need a REAL MAN to fuck your brains out and teach you 'a lesson' you'll never forget!"

 

 "Come on –  quit stalling and let's go – we have a lot of 'work' to do."

 

 "Come on – hurry up – take your clothes off and get in bed.

Suck my dick and eat my tits. Make sounds and growl like an animal.

There, that’s better. Now, turn over and get on your knees."

 

   "Why can’t you just admit the truth about yourself – admit how much you love and want cock – GOOD cock, BIG cock, JUICY cock – REAL cock – stop lying and quit pretending you DON’T want cock." 

 

   "Fucking IS 'loving' — don't think of it as 'incest'. Besides, ALL girls wanna be in bed with their fathers – just begging for it every minute! Learn to relax and enjoy it so you can start to get well and become a better animal – healthy animal – 'good whore in the bedroom' and 'real woman in the living room'."

 

"If I have to slap you around, girl, it's for your own fuckin' good, so you can start to wake up!" 

 

"I don’t really want to rape you, but you leave me with no choice – you’re such a stupid girl, poor fuck and tight-ass.”

 

   “Fucking is hard work – and I’m doing you a big favor, girl! THIS is Real Sex and Real Love with a Real MAN!  When are you gonna start showing a little appreciation and pay me back for all this hard work and effort I’ve been putting into you?”

 

   "Why would any 'REAL Man' and 'teacher' like you want to be in bed with some 'stupid girl' and 'poor fuck' like me? What's in it for you, Alex? Why bother…?"

 

“I have my reasons."

  


 

It is generally thought that many sex offenders may have been victims themselves in childhood.

 

Four main reasons are often given for rape. Any combination of these reasons might be operative with the offender:

(l) general hostility against all women or displaced onto women
(2) the influence of drugs as an inhibition releaser
(3) psychopathic-sociopathic personality, which causes the offender to be aggressive and assaultive on occasion toward anyone, with the sexual assault simply one more means of inflicting harm
(4) the use of sexual attack as a defense against fears of homosexuality or sexual inadequacy

 

From The Common Secret: Child Sexual Abuse by Drs. Ruth and Henry Kempe

 


 

What is sexual addiction?

 

Sexual addiction, which is also called sexual dependency, hypersexuality, nymphomania (females), satyriasis (males), compulsive sexual behavior and sexual compulsivity, refers to the phenomenon in which people cannot manage their sexual behavior.

 

The individual is obsessed with sexual thoughts – thoughts which interfere with their ability to work properly, have relationships, and go about their daily activities. Many say that sexual addiction is a form of obsessive compulsive behavior.

 

A person with sexual addiction is obsessed with sex, or has an abnormally intense sex drive. Their lives are dominated with sex and the thought of sex; so much so that other activities and interactions become seriously affected.

 

It is not uncommon for the patient with sexual addiction to rationalize and justify their behavior and thought patterns. People with a sex addiction may deny there is a problem. . .

 

~ Christian Nordqvist

 


 

   Like most sex offenders, sadists often justify their behavior. But what possible excuses could anybody use to justify torture? When I ask audiences this, they grow thoughtful. It is a daunting task for normal people to find excuses for the inexcusable.
   The sadists I have talked with, however, have no such difficulty. Some convince themselves that their victims aren't really suffering that much, and in any case, their victims actually want this to happen.

 

In Predators, Pedophiles, Rapists, and Other Sex Offenders: Who They Are, How They Operate, and How We Can Protect Ourselves and Our Children by Anna C. Salter, PH.D.

 


 

In DEMONIC MALES: Apes and The Origins of Human Violence, authors Richard Wrangham and Dale Peterson address these and other ago-old questions:

 

 

 

 

"Why do men kill, rape, and wage war,

and what can we do about it?"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

Equating manhood with being in control, the offender compensates for his feelings of vulnerability by gaining physical and sexual control over another. Rape is not an act of passion but a crime of aggression. The courage of women in speaking out against their sexual victimization has resulted in an increased awareness of this issue and crime.

 

From Men Who Rape: The Psychology of the Offender by Nicholas Groth

 


 

In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. Secrecy and silence are the perpetrator's first line of defense. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens. To this end, he marshals an impressive array of arguments, from the most blatant denial to the most sophisticated and elegant rationalization. After every atrocity, one can expect to hear the same predictable apologies, or it never happened; the victim lies; the victim exaggerates; the victim brought it upon herself; in any case it is time to forget the past and move on. The more powerful the perpetrator, the greater is his prerogative to name and define reality, and the more completely his arguments prevail.

 

From Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence – from domestic abuse to political terror, by Judith Herman, MD, also author of Father-Daughter Incest

 


 

Horn:  "Cut the crap and take your clothes off — I don't have much time."

 

    "DON'T mention this to anybody – do you hear me? ANYBODY!!"

 

 

Sharon, a few hours later:

 

"Just called to let you know that Alex and I truly love each other — and I know all about why my husband was in your bed. He said you were always asking for it and coming on to him behind my back. He finally had to pay you a visit to show you what a filthy tramp and whore you are, only interested in cock and getting fucked. You're probably just jealous because Alex married me instead of you. But you can't come between us, or take him away from me, if that's what you're thinking."

 


 

The unconscious projection of one's own problems onto others helps to reduce tension. But what about the real situation?

 

  ~ Idries Shah

 


 

Did Sharon and her "husband" ever know when and why they were lying, pretending and projecting? 

 

LYING            

 

Look at the phenomenon of lying in its relationship to fools.

Fools lie to explain or conceal their foolishness. It is not a remedy, but they use it.

Liars, again, are fools because a lie may be found out, and gambling fools are not different from the ordinary kind.

The liar fools himself that he will not be found out, and the fool fools himself that his lie will cover his folly.

It is not easy to avoid being a fool. It is possible to realise that one has been one. The remedy is not lying.

Again, it is possible to realise that one has lied, and to avoid it. Foolishness and lying being so much of a continuum, being truthful can help towards being less foolish.

It is for this reason, because it is con­structively useful, that traditional teachings have stressed the need to tell the truth and be as truthful as possible. Truthfulness means being efficient, effective. Lying is an attempt to make inefficiency into its opposite.

This is why all forms of self-deception are 'lying', and the person who foolishly cannot see the truth can approach it by practice in avoiding at least, for a start, some forms of lying.

Many durable 'moralistic' teachings are specific and effective exercises gone wrong.

 

~ Idries Shah, Reflections

 


 

. . .Men lie to enhance their image. They lie to flee intimacy. They lie to dodge conflict. They lie to keep from having to make difficult choices. They lie so they won't get into trouble for doing something they shouldn't. But then, so do women.

"Both men and women," says Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D, author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Intimacy, "lie to avoid complications, to shield themselves from loss, to preserve and protect something important to them, to reduce anxiety." 

Like men, women practice full-service deception – fibs, figments, omissions, secrets, silences – motivated by the same basic needs and desires.  But our falsehoods tend to take a different form.

 

Women are raised to protect and pretend, Dr Lerner observes. "Pretending, to a woman, is as natural as breathing, as ordinary as good manners. Many of us don't even know we're doing it. 

 

Women are taught to sacrifice authenticity of self to preserve togetherness. Women are encouraged to pretend anything that will bolster their man and protect relationship harmony. 

 

 Men who lie to get sex may also be lying to themselves. . ."

 

 

From "Why Men Lie (And Why We Believe Them)" by Judith Stone,

Glamour Magazine, 1992

                             


 

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